Secret Dating – 6 Tips for Successful Gentlemanly Online Dating
1. Don’t Misrepresent Yourself
So maybe you were a football or track star in high school and now you’re a few years removed and about twenty pounds heavier — leave those varsity pictures where they belong (in a shoebox!), and upload something more recent. While meeting people and dating shouldn’t be all about vanity, you don’t want someone’s first thought upon meeting you to be, “Whoa, he looks nothing like his pictures.”
Not only is it insanely distracting, but it’s starting the potential relationship with dishonesty rather than trust. This also goes for exaggerating, or outright lying, when it comes to your job, education, or anything you find yourself tempted to say to get a meeting in person. I guarantee if they find out you tricked them, they will assume everything you’ve said was a lie.
2. Temper Your Own Expectations
While getting catfished, or tricked into falling for people who lie about everything (right down to using someone else’s pictures), seems to be the common assumption about meeting someone from the internet, it’s really not that common. It does happen though. This is why you should try to use the internet as a means of meeting people, and use subsequent in-person dates to get to know them. You aren’t meeting someone with the intent of going ring shopping if things go well.
While dating sites have plenty of attractive and very successful people, not everyone will look exactly like their pictures. While I’m not saying you should be expecting a man in a wig to show up, you should kind of automatically assume that their pictures were old or edited, or at the least, something that shows their very best light. Not that that’s always the case, but just keep in mind that you can never truly know someone you haven’t talked to in the flesh.
3. Take the Lead in Conversation
Maybe you had an incredible conversation online with someone whom you decide to meet, and then they barely say a word. Meeting a stranger is always awkward, and online dating, especially, lends itself to folks who are shy in social situations. So you would probably be doing yourself a favor if you just lead the conversation (if you don’t know how, study this tutorial), or simply just deal with the awkward first date and see if either one of you would like a much less awkward second date; remember that it often takes 3 encounters to really know if you click with someone.
4. Accept Rejection
Does this seem like common sense? Because I have never been more embarrassed on a date than when I hear horror stories from the woman about other men she’s met online. And really, most of it comes about as a result of rejection. While the theory behind matching someone is that you are both mutually interested in each other, that does not mean you are halfway to dating. If a girl says “No” when you ask them on a date, take it in stride, and then move on.
5. Stay on the Date, At Least for a Little While
When you finally do meet in person, it’s important to be as polite as possible, even if they look nothing like the image you had in your head. I’ve literally shown up on a date and only found out when I got there that the person was weeks away from giving birth. I didn’t leave or sneak off “to the bathroom,” but I stayed and had about an hour-long conversation, not because I’m a saint, but because I could not imagine someone telling me to meet them and then just never showing up. Most importantly, you can never be worse off for simply knowing someone. Even if the date is terrible, you are meeting someone who you probably would never have met, and your life is that much richer.
6. Try to Figure Out What They’re Looking For
This isn’t as cut and dry as it seems. While there are plenty of people who are indeed on Tinder and other platforms for the sake of finding relationships, they are also widely used for hook-ups and simply to further one’s own vanity. But generally, these people are easy to differentiate. If someone just wants sex they will probably suggest you either go to their place or they come to yours, so you can “Netflix and Chill,” which is just code for sex. A lot of people actually have “No hook-ups” in their bio, which gives you an idea that they’re looking for something a little more serious.
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